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Why have safer sex?
You can't tell who's got HIV the virus that can lead to AIDS. Anyone can have HIV: young or old, hunky or skinny, black or white, 'on the scene' or 'off the scene'. There are men with HIV in Bermuda who look and feel completely well. You have no way of knowing who of your sexual partners may have HIV infection. So, the answer is NOT in simply choosing your sexual partners carefully, but to stick to safer sex with everyone!
It doesn't matter if either of you has HIV. Safer sex will protect you both. In the past, when we knew less than we know now, our advice used to be extra cautious. But, in fact, all we need to remember is this:
Basically...... HIV can only be transmitted between men through blood and cum. Fortunately, it can't get through ordinary, healthy, undamaged skin. You may be worried about other body fluids - like spit or pee - but HIV is only ever found in these in very small amounts which aren't enough to be infectious. Studies of many thousands of people have shown that no-one has ever been infected through kissing. So the important thing is HIV is only transmitted when blood or cum goes from one body to another. Bearing this in mind safer sex is quite straight forward.
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The main risk of transmitting HIV is through fucking or being fucked. This is because the virus can easily get into your body through the sensitive lining of your ass or your dick. You can really cut down on the risk in fucking by using condoms as long as they're good quality and used properly.
- Open the packet carefully not with your teeth.
- Unroll the condom all the way down on the cock.
- While fucking have a look from time to time to make sure it's still in one piece.
- When you withdraw make sure you hold the condom tight to the base of your dick as you pull out.
Although condom manufacturers still don't make condoms specifically for anal use it's safest if you choose a thicker or stronger condom for anal sex. You can make sure that the condoms aren't old stock by checking the 'sell by' date and store them away from hot or damp places. You can buy plenty at a time - or get them free from The Allan Vincent Smith Foundation - to avoid running out at an inconvenient moment.
Many men find they can get the same sort of pleasure by using sex toys, like dildos or butt plugs, up the bum. There's no risk of transmitting HIV with these unless you share your toys that go inside you.
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Sharing needles or blades
Anything that can pierce the skin can transmit HIV by transferring blood from one person to another. So never share anything that can pierce the skin such as:
- Needles or other injecting equipment
- Razors or blades
- Tattooing needles or inks
- Piercing equipment
- Sex toys that could get blood on them
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No-one can be absolutely sure that virus in cum or pre-cum can't get through the linings of the mouth or throat.
A small number of people think they have been infected through sucking. However when the sexual behaviour of thousands of gay men has been studied over a number of years sucking hasn't shown up as a risk. So if there's a risk it's very small. But the risk may be higher if your mouth is sore or bleeding.
You might choose to use condoms and avoid getting any cum or pre-cum in your mouth. Some men get just as turned on by nuzzling and licking the cock and balls without taking them in the mouth.
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Eating ass is safe unless there is any blood in or around the ass.
However there are some risks to your health from rimming from other types of infection e.g.: hepatitis, salmonella, and some parasites. If you have HIV, these can be very serious.
Remember that you can get vaccinated against Hepatitis B.
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You can still do almost everything that turns you on safely.
- You could suck, kiss, lick, touch, fondle, bite, nibble, and squeeze all over his body - his nipples, ass, calves, toes, neck, ears, thighs, nose, crotch, balls, armpits, fingers...
- You could give him a soft sensual massage or get tougher with wrestling, rough and tumble, or spanking...
- You could jerk each other off - dry or using lots of lube - or press, rub, and slap your dick against his dick, buns face chest thighs...
- You could have sex in front of mirrors; take Polaroids or digital photos and videos; or watch each other jerking off...
- You could dress up or strip down to sports gear, lycra, leather, rubber, jock-straps, uniforms, work gear, torn jeans, boots...
- You could use cock rings, nipple clamps, and other sex toys or play with mud, piss, oil, or beer...
- You could play with his ass - finger him, put dildos or butt plugs up him...
- You could talk dirty and tell him about your wildest fantasies...
- You could get into role-play and domination fantasies; taking orders; binding, roping and restraining; or cross-dressing...
The only precautions you need to take are common sense ones: avoid cutting the skin and, if you do, avoid getting blood or cum into the wound. And don't share sex toys that go into the body.
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LOCAL GAY RESOURCES
This information is just a brief guide to safer sex for gay men. It may raise new questions for you; or you may have questions about things we haven't covered, like fisting, scat, or S&M. Also, you may have questions about testing, living with an HIV-positive diagnosis, or other issues to do with HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections. You may also want to know about free condoms and clean needles etc.
There are a number of helping organizations in Bermuda which can offer advice on these matters:
Allan Vincent Smith Foundation
2 Bermuda House Lane - Hamilton HM 12 - Tel: 295-6882 - Lifestyle Support Line: 295-0002 - operated Mon-Fri 9-5 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Bermuda Rainbow Alliance (BRA)
BRA was formed to meet the needs of the gay lesbian and trans-gendered persons in Bermuda. Presently, gay, lesbian, and trans-gendered persons are not protected under the amended Human Rights Act. The immediate goal is the amendment of this document to make discrimination against gay lesbian and trans-gendered persons in Bermuda illegal. Ultimately, our purpose is to provide an information and referral centre for the mutual support of gays, lesbians, bisexuals, trans-gendered persons; their families, friends, allies, and the community at large. You can contact us via email at: email@example.com.
Latest Issue of Rainbow Recorder is available for DOWNLOAD.
Gay Mens' Support Group
Are you having problems with relationships discrimination? ..... fear of HIV/AIDS? ... internalized homophobia? ... taking care of yourself?
The intention of the group is to provide nurturing support to self-reflect, gain strength, and create community. Call 295-0002 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Ray-Juans Intimate Lingerie
53 Church Street - Hamilton HM 12 - Tel: 295-0443
Ray-Juan's has a large supply of adult toys and games designed to enhance your sexual appetite.
Hamilton Health Centre (Victoria Street Clinic)
67 Victoria Street Hamilton HM 12 Tel: 236-0224
Offers testing and counseling for all sexually transmitted infections including HIV and AIDS.
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ON THE WEB
Gay Mens Health Crisis The world's oldest & largest HIV/AIDS organization based in New York.
Gay Bermuda Web Site Catering to gays & lesbians living in Bermuda visitors and chat forum area.
Gay Health Provides up to date information for gay men to lead safer sex lives
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